Friendship is supposed to be easy, but sometimes our different perspectives and opinions can either bring us closer together or drive us apart. I lost a good friend some years ago, but not because they passed away – they simply went out of my life. I can’t help but feel like something changed in the timeline of our friendship, as if it split into two and we went our separate ways. Despite my efforts to find a way to fix things, it seems like we’re meant to be apart.
You try to be the best you can be for your friends. Sometimes your best may come across as too much. I had to learn that the hard way. It takes a long time to build bridges, but when you burn them maaaaaan does it burn fast. When my friend began communicating with me less as each day passed, I would question them even more. Why would such a close friend treat me as if I had become a stranger in their life? All I did was give and give and give, so I guess they were only there for the taking.
Or maybe I wasn’t as much of a friend as I thought I was? There was a situation which I thought I handled as best as I could, but they expected more of me. They sent me a text one day which read, “I learned I shouldn’t have high expectations of anyone.” We did speak from time to time after we confronted the issue, but it was never the same.
They say rejection hurts, but I believe losing a friend is much worse. Especially when it was a situation that truly wasn’t worth our separation. I had to come to terms with it eventually, it took me a long time to process and heal, but I’m in a better place now. I remember my sister telling me, “Sara, they clearly don’t care about you, it’s time to let it go.” and those words hit me. If you’re looking for stone cold truth then be sure to speak with my sister. That was when I decided to let it go and I did. This was around five years after the conflict. Can you believe I held on to that pain for that long?
You go through life wondering who will stay and who won’t, but you don’t have to. Life has a funny way of working that out for us. True friends know your worth regardless of your opinions and your overbearing amount of care. They won’t give up on you over hard conversations, they will actually welcome them. As I grow older, I care less about pleasing those who don’t care for me.
Your everyday girl,
Sara S.
Your Everyday Girl 
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